How Self-Justification Leads to Repeat Cheating — Why It Escalates
TL;DR: Self-justification — through infidelity excuses and affair rationalizations — can turn a one-off lapse into repeated betrayal by shifting memory, language, and behavior.
TL;DR: Self-justification — through infidelity excuses and affair rationalizations — can turn a one-off lapse into repeated betrayal by shifting memory, language, and behavior.
Below we unpack each layer, highlight common signs, and offer in-post tools to help you track and respond to suspicious events.
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